What is this scars and wounds thing?
I heard this quote a while ago. I’m not sure if this entirely accurate because my search for this yielded something similar: “Share from your scar, not your open wounds” by one Glennon Doyle.
And clearly he got it from a friend.
Still, it is good advice. When you act from within anger, or you write/share from a would, you are moving inside a realm that’s not your normal ‘habitat’. When you are in such a state, you are ill-tempered, prone to lash out to everyone near (even the ones you hold dear) and usually that is not the image you want others to have.
If there is anything you want to convey after a dramatic event, wait until the pain has gone. Pain clouds the mind and it will make you say things you are probably going to regret.
Writing from your scars
I am convinced this goes for writers. I have seen writing that clearly ‘erupted’ from someone’s mind in turmoil. Anger and fear seemed to bounce off the words and pages, making the whole work an uneasy read.
It’s better to wait. If you’re in such a bad head-state, take notes. Write up a draft of how you feel. Then put it aside and let the words, like your mind, cool down. Wait until the wounds have healed. The scars will come. They will be eternal reminders of the bad place you were in, but (if all goes well) they cover the real pain. They seal that and make the whole even bearable.
I’ve had my share of crap in life. Had I been writing back then, I would have produced quite some venom. I’m glad I didn’t. After hearing the quote above, I’m also determined to never do that.
I know, this isn’t a blog post that has much to do with naturism, but it’s something that I felt I had to write down anyway. Maybe it helps someone. Or at least it might make someone think.
Have a grand day, everyone, and stay safe.